It is well known that men and women use a wide variety of gestures while paying court to somebody. Most gestures are used unknowingly. The success of the relationship depends on your ability to give certain signals and perceive the ones that are being sent to you. Raised eyebrows. When we see a person that we consider attractive, we begin raising and lowering our eyebrows. If the person also feels drawn to you, his eyebrows will also start going up and down. This gesture lasts only 1/5 of a second but it takes place all the time, with people of both sexes and all ages. This "eye making" can be easily left unnoticed, but if you do notice it, you will certainly be given 100% of the person's attention.
Slightlyopened lips.If a person likes you, his or her lips automatically open the moment your eyes meet. Standing at attention. If a man is standing straight, with his shoulders squared and with his belt tightened, he's trying to show himself in all his beauty. If he is leaning forward to hear what the woman is saying, it is even better.
Adjusting the clothes. If a man is adjusting his tie, he really hopes that you will notice it. He may also sleek his hair, pull down his jacket, see if his lapels are in the right place. When a man is playing with the buttons of his jacket he's probably nervous. Using this gesture he's also trying to demonstrate his subconscious wish to get undressed for you. The next stage is when he takes his jacket off and places his arms on his hips. If he has used all these gestures, it means he's already imagining your shoes under his bed.
Playing with the hair. In order to show her sympathy towards a man, a woman makes a movement with her head to get her hair off her face. She may also move it aside with her hand. She tries to send the same signal by licking her lips. By the way, men also like sprucing up while talking to a woman. At the same time a woman will never miss a chance to count the number of times a man sleeks or bristles up his hair during the conversation. Voyeurism. A man is openly trying to show that he's examining the woman's body, by casting some looks at its most beautiful parts. Ladies, you shouldn't be flattered, he automatically scanned your figure the first second he saw you. All he wants to do now is to let you know that he considers you as his sexual partner.
Crossing the legs. If the toes of a person's shoes are pointed at you, he or she is certainly interested in you. If you point your knee towards the person you're interested in, you'll demonstrate that you're ready for a closer relationship. One of the most captivating poses is when a woman is sitting with her legs crossed under herself and her knees are exposed to the person she's talking to. It means she's wants a man to take more decisive steps.
Playing around with cylindrical objects. A man, as well as a woman, when excited, will definitely find a glass or even a fork to stroke it or to touch it with his fingers. Cylindrical objects remind men of the woman's breasts, and the women of the man's genitals. Woman's wrist has always been considered one of the erogenous zones. When a woman is interested in a man she'll try to keep her palms and her wrists in the man's sight.
Touching the face. If a person is interested in you, he'll keep touching his chin, his ears and his cheeks. It means that he or she is subconsciously fixing the lies. This is a combination of nervous and auto erotic actions. When we're interested in somebody, our lips and the lower part of the face become very sensitive to stimulation. If you're smoking, you'll begin inhaling more often. If you're drinking something, you'll begin taking more sips. You enjoy touching your lips, and what is more, you let the other person know that a kiss is not far off.
The leading hand. It is a good sign if a man is holding you by the elbow or by the shoulder. In the first place, it is a good way to lead you through the crowd. Secondly, this way he can be sure that you don't get lost. Thirdly, this will frighten away the other men: after all, you already have one by your side. Fourthly , this lets him accidentally touch you … All in all, it's a good gesture.
He's offering you his sweater or his coat. Few men would be very glad that a woman came back from a date wearing somebody else's jacket, even if otherwise she would have died from cold. Men offer their jackets or sweaters to women because it's a defensive, sexual and proprietorial gesture. He's saying "What is mine, is also yours " (and otherwise ). At first the jacket smells of him, and then it smells of you. Eventually, by giving it to you, he'll have one more cause to appear on the scene again, at least to get back what belongs to him.
7 Ways to Make Him Ache for You
You love your guy. He loves you. But do you wonder if he still wants you like he did when your romance was new? After you pull out a bunch of these tricks, he sure as hell will.
Sure, you want adoration, respect and the occasional sparkly treat from your man, but more than anything, you want to feel like he's still got the hots for you. Well, here's good news: Contrary to the widely held belief that men lose interest over time, experts now know that guys are actually hardwired for long-term lusting.
"It's absolutely true, but it's not without conditions," says Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D., author of Why Can't You Read My Mind? "You have to make a strategic effort to trigger that craving in him once you're in a relationship because the spark in your bond won't last if you neglect it." For that reason, Cosmo has discovered the seven key make-him-ache-for-you strategies that specifically jump-start your guy's desire. Be warned: Once you use them, he'll be sticking to you like white on rice.
1. Utter the One Word That Drives Him Nuts
As lovey-dovey as pet names make him feel, they still don't compare to the electrifying rush your man gets when his name crosses your lips. "Just hearing it is an aphrodisiac," says body-language expert Eve Marx, author of Read My Hips. "It ratchets up his desire because the message you send is 'It's you I'm thinking about and no one else.' And men need to hear that -- it's tied to their primal urge to beat out all the competition."
However, just blurting out his moniker as often as possible isn't going to do it for him. You need to make it count. For instance, when you're feeling sexy in a public setting, like in a dark bar, drop it into conversation in surprising spots and pause for a beat or two: "And then...Jeremy...I slammed the door behind me."
Or try another trick when he's putting the moves on you: Just kind of coo his name to draw his focus entirely on to you. "When Jake and I are getting it on, sometimes it feels like he's lost in his own head," says Sandrine, 26.* "But when I moan his name, everything feels like it gets more intense between us, like it brings him into the moment."
*Names have been changed.
2. Reach into His Pocket for the Keys
Well, more than just the keys. The lesson is this: "Never underestimate the power of an unexpected touch," says David Niven, Ph.D., author of The 100 Simple Secrets of Great Relationships. "Just by stimulating his nerve endings when he's not prepared for it, you create a positive physical connection that leaves your man wanting more." Even better, your guy subconsciously gets hooked on those mini-moments of excitement and craves them when you're not around.
From now on, be on the lookout for opportune moments to touch him "accidentally." For example, don't ask him for his keys...glide your hand into his pocket and slowly take them out. Don't ask him to pass the salt...reach across him, letting your breasts rub against his arm. Don't walk past him in a crowded bar...press your rear into his gear. According to Tricia, 25, these sneak attacks work like a charm. "If I've been really touchy-feely with Rob, the next morning, he'll be really snuggly," she says. "It's like he wants to be closer to me."
3. Keep Him Out of the Loop
The funny thing about men is that telling them less about your life makes them long for you more. So as much as you might want to share the minutiae of your bitchy workplace or your take on the latest Grey's Anatomy plot twist, hold back. "The hard truth is that from his end, that information is overwhelming and boring," explains Douglas Weiss, Ph.D., author of The 7 Love Agreements. "Men don't have the capacity to endure great amounts of detail. That's one reason why they don't give you the play-by-play of their lives."
Edit your small talk and you'll make a discovery: The less you tell him, the more interested he'll become in your day-to-day, as Susan, 27, can attest. "If I'm vague or dismissive about what I've been up to -- like 'Oh, nothing. The usual. Work. Out with the girls' -- Dave becomes eager to hear the story," she says. "And when he's the instigator, he listens more closely."
So to hook him in, when you're chatting, give him the conclusion of the conversation first. For instance, "I got the job" or "I saw your buddy Mark," and then stop and wait. You've gotten his attention, now let him draw out the details he's dying to know from you.
4. Make Small Changes for Big Results
Caroline, 26, had gotten haircuts in the past that her guy hadn't noticed at all, but when she had her brunette crown streaked red, he was all over her. "Jake couldn't stop touching me -- he couldn't believe he was fooling around with a redhead," she says. The reason her new do drove him nuts: "Men register eye-catching changes to your appearance, and it draws them to you," says Lori Buckley, Psy.D. "Adding novelty will keep his desire for you strong."
There's a catch though: If you want to snag his immediate interest, the change has to be guy-visible. "To activate his desire, it has to be a departure from your everyday look," says David Buss, Ph.D., author of The Evolution of Desire. Maybe take a break from your jeans routine and strut around in a miniskirt. Wear a noticeably higher heel. Or ditch your bra for a day and put a little extra bounce in your step.
5. Compliment Him the Right Way
Just because men don't fish for flattery (when was the last time you heard a guy ask, "Honey, do my pecs look small in this shirt?") doesn't mean they don't love ego stroking. "More than anything, men desire the feeling of being desired," says Bernstein. "When a man hears praise from his partner, it reinforces that she's attracted to him, which further intensifies his feelings for her."
But there's a trick to buttering up your guy right. You see, men are super sensitive to gushing. It makes them want to gag and run far away. So when you give him props, stick to this tip: The more obscure and exclusive the praise to him, the more genuine it feels. That's why Molly, 31, casually praises her guy's kitchen-cleaning prowess. "Tom is anal about wiping down the counters, so whenever I go to cook and they're clean, I say how much I love it." He may dismiss your flattery with a grunt, but deep down, he's loving every second of it.
6. Give Him a Sensory Flashback
Think about when you first fell for your guy. What reminds you both of that time (aside from the conniption fit you had every time the phone rang)? Figure it out and you've found the secret to conjuring up that new-love rush. "When he experiences something that he associates with falling in love with you, those intense, sensual memories trigger a positive physical reaction and generate instant longing," says Bernstein.
Case in point: "The smell of sunscreen and chlorine makes me crave my wife," says Peter, 28. "It takes me back to when we were in high school and she worked summers as a lifeguard at a pool. Smelling that scent gives me the jolt all over again." To get your guy in the moment, revive an old brand of perfume, visit a favorite place from your shared past or reinstate an early dating ritual. Oftentimes, you won't even need to say anything, according to Bernstein. These sensory connections are so strong that he'll be transported back instantly.
7. Check Out His Competition
Lust works in bizarre ways. Get this: If you want to renew your man's passion for you, slyly capture the eye of another guy. "Men do become more attentive and turned on by their partners when they see them being desired by other men," says Buss. Aimee, 27, knows all about this surprising strategy: "When I get dressed up and guys at the bar check me out, I know Will's thinking, Yeah, that's right. She's with me, suckers," she says. "And he's definitely clingier when he can smell the competition."
To stoke your guy's interest, trail a yummy waiter with your gaze or flash a flirty smile at one of his friends when you know he's watching you. And it never hurts to make an extra bit of effort with your appearance when you know you'll be in a situation where other men will admire you. Just the possibility of other guys eying you all night will definitely make him appreciate that he's the lucky dog who gets to take you home.
Benefits Of Sex...
1. Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce amounts of the hormone estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.
2. Gentle, relaxed lovemaking reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.
3. Lovemaking can burn up those calories you piled on during that romantic dinner.
4. Sex is one of the safest sports you can take up. It stretches and tones up just about every muscle in the body. It's more enjoyable than swimming 20 laps, and you don't need special sneakers!
5. Sex is an instant cure for mild depression. It releases endorphins into the bloodstream, producing a sense of euphoria and leaving you with a feeling of well-being.
6. The more sex you have, the more you will be offered. The sexually active body gives off greater quantities of chemicals called pheromones. These subtle sex perfumes drive the opposite sex crazy!
7. Sex is the safest tranquilizer in the world. IT IS 10 TIMES MORE EFFECTIVE THAN VALIUM.
8. Kissing each day will keep the dentist away. Kissing encourages saliva to wash food from the teeth and lowers the level of the acid that causes decay, preventing plaque build-up.
9. Sex actually relieves headaches. A lovemaking session can release the tension that restricts blood vessels in the brain.
10. A lot of lovemaking can unblock a stuffy nose. Sex is a natural antihistamine. It can help combat asthma and hay fever.
As if you needed a reason!
Just The Facts: SAFER SEX IS HOTTER SEX! The use of condoms can be essential to a happy sex life, since condoms are the only way to ensure that you can reduce the risks of disease and pregnancy while fully enjoying your sexual experience.
Condoms are an incredible invention. They prevent disease and pregnancy and, if you're willing to give them a chance, they can be fun! Several hundred years ago, people made condoms out of pigs' bladders, but today we can buy condoms that science and technology have almost perfected for our safety and enjoyment.
An important tip: When condoms fail, it is almost always because they've not been used properly.
So here are the top ten tips for using condoms:
Purchase them! Get a supply of the condoms that suit you best: Use latex condoms. Brands such as Lifestyle, Trojan, Kimono, or Protex are usually reliable. Natural skin condoms, like lambskin, feel good, but do not prevent disease. If you or your partners are allergic to latex (it might give you a rash or irritation) or it isn't compatible with a lubricant or product you are using, try polyurethane condoms like Avanti. You may find you want to use a special condom to suit your special needs: If your man is uncircumcised, he may need a condom such as Maxx, which is wider at the head. - If the condom tends to slip off during sex, you might try a condom such as Mentor which has an elasticized band at the base.
- If his erect penis is unusually thick or long, you may need a condom such as Trojan Plus or Magnum. But know that there is no penis that is "too big for a condom" – when properly used, any regular condom can fit over any penis any time. You can always purchase a condom from www.condomania.com and get one that will be a hassle-free and a perfect fit!
Prepare for sex! Take care of your condoms, store them somewhere handy (you never know when you may need them) as well as somewhere cool and dry (latex rots if it gets too warm, like in the back pocket of his pants for too long). Also, check the expiration date on the package. Never use condoms that are old, in a package that has been opened by someone else, have been left out of their package, or have been kept in a warm place. Practice putting them on! Don't wait until you're in the heat of a sexual situation. Get used to putting them on ahead of time. You can practice on a banana or a cucumber to get the full effect. Then, when it's time for sex with a partner, you'll know exactly how to use it! Get smart with condoms! Know how to use condoms properly! Use care to roll the condom down the shaft of the penis as soon as it is erect. (If they are uncircumcised, they will probably need to pull the foreskin back before putting the condom on). Pinch the reservoir at the top of the condom so that there's no air bubble trapped inside the condom (air bubbles can cause breakages). Beware of jewelry or sharp fingernails, as these can cause small rips or tears in a condom (which later lead to breakages). Keep the condom firmly on the penis until ejaculation occurs. If they are inside their partner, withdraw, and carefully remove the condom and dispose of it. Use a new condom each time you participate in intercourse.
Lubricate! Your condom will probably come with some lubrication inside, most likely it will be a silicone-based lubricant. For the pleasure of intercourse without discomfort, you will probably want to use additional lubricant on the outside of the condom. Never use petroleum- or oil-based lubricants or heighteners because it may deteriorate the latex and cause damage to the condom.
Communicate!
Talk with your partner(s), and even with your friends, about condom use. Tell your partner that you're using condoms because you value yourself, and you value them. If your partner is a man, tell him that you are attracted to men who use condoms and who know how to use condoms. Let's be real-sex can be the greatest pleasure there is, but it's no fun to give or get a disease or be worried about an unintended pregnancy.
Have Fun!
Make Condoms Sexy! Learn how to talk about them and how to put them on your partner in a seductive way. You can practice putting them on with your mouth or some other fun and erotic way. If you choose to have fun, condoms can be exciting and sexy. Worrying about disease or pregnancy isn’t sexy - it's a drag, and can ruin a pleasurable sexual experience.
From The Ultimate Sex Diet by Kerry McCloskey
Crouching Tiger, Aroused Dragon
Both partners will quickly realize why the Crouching Tiger has great pleasure and orgasm potential. . In this position, the woman does a sexy squat above the man -- in a catcher's position. This is the perfect chance for her to use her PC muscles to "catch" his member and clench him tight. The woman can then support herself by putting her hands anywhere on his body for support and then move herself up and down. It also allows the woman to have better control of the depth and pace of the penetration. She can even vary it to tease her partner a little and make sex more interesting. The up and down motion may create different sensations than the regular woman-on-top position in which she is lying down in a straddle, moving back and forth. Of course, she will be in better control of her orgasm. If she allows a deep penetration, she can stimulate her G-spot more often. More shallow penetration will touch the edge of the vaginal opening, which is still a pleasurable sensation. Additionally, if the woman leans back, her clitoris can be stimulated. In terms of muscle tone, this position will work her inner thigh and calf muscles. Meanwhile, to get a better view, the man should lift his head and contract his stomach muscles. Maintaining this position as long as possible will give his abdomen a hard workout. He should feel the tension and clench tighter as it starts to burn. He can even reach forward and caress his partner's body and add to everyone's pleasure.
Down Doggy! Good Doggy!
This erotic, animalistic position is very similar to the usual doggy style, with a few slight changes. After the man enters from behind, as in the regular doggy position, the woman leans down and supports her weight on her elbows, rather than staying on all fours, while the man lifts one bent leg forward, rather than kneeling on both knees. This is highly erotic for the woman because it places direct pressure on her G-spot, which is on the anterior (tummy side) vaginal wall, intensifying her climax. The woman can also maneuver the penetration by slightly arching her back or raising herself a bit. Meanwhile, the man will feel extraordinary sensations in his private parts. This position is also appealing for the change of pace involved in not always looking at each other's face. The woman will feel the tension in her triceps while making love in this position and the man will work his thighs when his leg stays raised. He should switch legs halfway through to hit the G-spot from a different angle.
Humpty Bumpty
In this position, the man is sitting up while the woman is sitting on him with her legs raised in the air in a straddle. She holds onto his neck with her hands while he maneuvers her back and forth. This will work the woman's arms, stomach and legs. The man will tone his arms while moving the woman's body, and will strengthen his legs from the support he is providing to his partner.
Wheelbarrow of Fun
The woman lies on her stomach on the bed with her legs slightly open and her knees slightly off the edge of the bed. The man stands behind her at the end of her bed and lifts her legs up toward him, until he is able to enter from behind. The woman then bends her legs and wraps them around him, locking her feet together at the ankles, while the man holds her with his hands and rests her on his thighs. This will tone the triceps and lower back. You can also try this on the floor. If you're really talented, you can try walking around the room while in this position and think back to your days in summer camp during color war.
Fatal Attracting
This position is reminiscent of the scene in the move Fatal Attraction, when Glenn Close is sitting on the counter while she and Michael Douglas are engaged in wild sex. Doing it spread-eagle on the table while your man faces you to thrust from the front creates mega heat in a minimal amount of time. "He's sure to come quickly because he plunges deep," says Anne Hooper, author of The Great Sex Guide. "Plus, men get off on the novelty of doing it somewhere new to them, [since] out of the bedroom equals no-holds-barred.
Let's Get Crazy
This position is a great workout for the woman's stomach and buttocks. While lying on her back, the woman extends her legs straight in the air, slightly spread, with her rear lifted off the ground. The man bends down in a slight squat to enter her, working his quads, and when using his arms for support, he works his triceps.
T-Rific!
The woman lies on her side, while the man kneels and straddles her bottom leg perpendicularly (i.e., at a right angle to her, thus forming a terrific "T") and then enters her. Her top leg remains extended upward, gently supported by the man. When done correctly, this can be a great position for deep penetration, while exposing the clitoris for maximum stimulation. This double stimulation is very gratifying and can often lead to the big "O" very quickly.
You already know sex is fun, and it's good for your health, but did you also know sex can make you wealthy?
According to a financial adviser at Saving Advice. com, the best financial advice he ever got came from a call girl who said, quote, "Don't marry her if she isn't great in bed.
Well, the guy eventually did marry a woman who was great in bed – and he says his sexually-healthy marriage actually makes him wealthier.
Here's how:
1.) Great sex reduces entertainment costs. If you had the option of choosing between hot sex and, well, anything else, you'd be crazy not to take the sex... and that will save you money.
2.) Great sex keeps you out of the mall. We go to malls to buy things that make us temporarily happy. But if you're getting awesome sex, you're already happy… so you won't go to the mall and blow your dough on stuff you don't need.
3.) Great sex means you don't go to restaurants as much. Why spend hours at a restaurant when you can have a quick dinner at home and jump in the sack with your significant other?
4.) Great sex keeps you organized. You'll stop procrastinating and organize your life so you can get down to sexual activities as quickly as possible.
5.) Great sex makes you healthier. One survey found that sexually active people take less sick days because they're healthier. That means you'll make more money for the days you don't miss – and you'll have lower health insurance premiums.
6.) Great sex makes vacations less expensive. If you're having good sex, you'll save money by spending more time in the hotel room instead of jumping from tourist trap to tourist trap.
7.) Great sex means you won't cheat on your partner. Extramarital affairs cost a lot of money – but if you're having awesome sex with your partner, you won't need to look for it anywhere else.
8.) Great sex means you'll stay married. A good sex life is usually indicative of a good marriage... and that means you won't have to go through the costly process of getting divorced.
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The g-spot is a zone about two or three inches inside the vagina on the front wall, closest to the clitoris or pubic bone. With the right technique and a bit of practice it can yield lots and lots of pleasure for women including orgasm, multiple orgasms and female ejaculation. Here are some simple things to help both a woman and her partner understand and discover her g-spot: 1. It is important to discuss beforehand with your partner what you would like to accomplish or the techniques you would like to try. 2. You may even want to read more about the g-spot before engaging in any intimate activity. The Complete Manual of Sexual Positions is a great resource for you. Contact your Pure Romance Consultant Paula Pierce to order this fantastic tool. 3. Engage in LOTS and LOTS of foreplay (minimum 30 minutes, preferably an hour). It may even be help to experience an orgasm from clitoral stimulation to make sure you are sufficiently aroused. 4. Lie on your back and pull your knees up. It also helps to place a pillow or two under your hips. The Sex Sling (another incredible Pure Romance Product) can also help get you into the ideal position for g-spot stimulation. 5. Either you or your partner can stimulate the g-spot. Gently place two fingers or a g-spot toy two or three inches inside your vagina. (May I recommend the G-Wiz?) 6. Then make a "come here" motion with your or his fingers. 7. Your or his fingers or the toy should now be touching the g-spot. Massage back and forth with his fingers, gently at first, then harder, eventually using lots of pressure. You can also start the toy off on a slower speed and pulsation and work up to a faster speed to heighten arousal. 8. That's it! With luck you'll reach your first orgasm within 3 to 5 minutes of heavy-pressured massaging. The g-spot itself feels like a very subtle bump 2 or 3 inches inside the vagina, about 1 to 2 inches in diameter. The important things for g-spot stimulation are foreplay, bringing your knees up to your chest, and hard pressure on your g-spot. Foreplay builds your sexual excitement and fills your vaginal and clitoral areas with blood - the equivalent of a man getting an erection. Lots of foreplay makes any sexual touch much more pleasurable. Here are a few more suggestions to help in discovering the pleasure of the g-spot: Let Go of the Feeling to UrinateThe most common barrier to reaching a g-spot orgasm is feeling like you might urinate. Sometimes during g-spot massage you'll get this feeling and you may stop stimulating that area. In order to put your mind at rest and focus on the pleasurable sensations you are experiencing there are a few things you can try. First, go to the bathroom and empty your bladder. When you start the g-pot massage, you might experience a feeling like you have to urinate, but know that youve just emptied your bladder. If you do experience some sort of release of fluid, know that what is happening is the build up to a female ejaculation. This is a clear or white substance similar to male semen that may come out of your urethral opening during orgasm. The ejaculation doesn't come from the bladder and is not urine. It comes from the paraurethral glands, a collection of small glands parallel to or surrounding the urethra. Female ejaculation is usually very, very pleasurable, and is most likely to happen during g-spot stimulation. Put a towel or two underneath you, and talk to your partner about it beforehand. The way to move past the feeling like you need to urinate is to just let go. You get this feeling because the paraurethral glands are beginning to fill the urethra with ejaculate. If this is a new sensation you'll probably think you will or have urinated. Let the tension build up and let the feeling go. If you can get over this feeling, there's a good chance you'll reach orgasm from g-spot stimulation, and may possibly experience multiple orgasms. Before you engage in any g-spot stimulation, it is important to discuss it with your partner, especially about the possibility of an ejaculation. This will help alleviate any fears you both have about the experience and allow you to both enjoy g-spot stimulation. The G-Spot OrgasmWith some practice and patience, g-spot massage can produce an orgasm for most women. If you are experimenting with g-spot stimulation with a partner, it is important to communicate to them what feels good, so they can understand the techniques that are most pleasurable to you. There is a way to 'feel' the orgasm happening - you can feel the orgasmic contractions. This will be a light, rhythmical squeezing of the vagina, lasting about 5 to 10 seconds. If you keep stimulating the g-spot after the first orgasm, its possible to reach a second, third or more. If you reach the first orgasm from g-spot stimulation, ask your partner to keep going until he feels the orgasmic contractions finish. You can start stimulating again when it feels comfortable and pleasurable. This may be right away or a few seconds after orgasm. If you keep going like this you may reach a second or even third orgasm. Still Not Experiencing G-Spot Orgasms?If you still have trouble getting pleasure from g-spot stimulation and have tried everything you can think of, including different positions, types of stimulation and have techniques, we suggest sticking with what works for your body. This may be oral sex, penetration, clitoral stimulation or a combination of everything. Not every woman will experience the same types of stimulation and pleasurable sensations. What works for you, may not work for other women. So, although the g-spot may be an extremely pleasurable area on some women, your body may respond better to other types of stimulation. Maybe try a combination of g-spot and clitoral stimulation to see if you find that pleasurable. Keep experimenting until you find what works best for you... pleasure is paramount.
When you enter your bedroom do you feel instant warmth and passion from the setting? Or do is it just a place to sleep and store the stuff that doesn't go anywhere else in your home? Here are some tips to transform your bedroom from blah to WOW in seven simple steps. 1. Personalize with Pictures Happily Attached? Add photos of the two of you together, select romantic frames or create a collage of special photos that bring back sexy and romantic memories. A good photo to use would be the two of you on your honeymoon or first holiday together, NOT pictures of the two of you in the hospital just after giving birth! The point is to use photos that evoke bad memories or sad feelings (the picture of the two of you with your now-deceased relative at a wedding is not a good idea). Try to restrict all photos in the room to be of you and your lover. Save your group photos for the hallway or living room. Single Status? Have special pictures of you in sexy/romantic settings (by sexy, we do not mean using pictures with questionable and risque photos or poses!). For example, a picture of you from your vacation in the perfect sunlight rather than the one of you partying all night long with some random group of people you met on the beach! Use pictures that make you feel good about yourself and pictures that prove you don't have to be committed to be happy and enjoy life. Use sexy wall art or framed photos of romantic scenery in black and white which can be customized to any room style, theme or color. General Rules of Thumb: While endearing, family photos or pictures of the kids can actually be distracting in the bedroom. Nothing can break the mood like looking up to see your precious 5-year-old looking down on you while you're in the middle of sharing an intimate moment with your partner! 2. Versatile Lighting Bright lights can be distracting and unflattering to some skin tones, try low wattage (40 watts or lower) to add comfort and serenity. Candles are great for lighting in the evening and can be used as decoration at the same time. If you're planning to remodel, consider the adjustable light dimmers that can go from a soft candle like glow to a bright light at the touch of a button. Choose soft colors that appeal to you. Psychologists have been studying the effects of colors on mood for many years and believe that colors play an important role in eliciting specific emotional responses. For example a yellow room is thought to be playful and optimistic while a red room signifies stimulation and passion. Fortunately, we do not have to limit ourselves to the primary color palate. Each color has a broad spectrum of hues, saturation and brightness. You only need to choose a color that you like and there will be a softer tone more suitable for a romantic setting. If you like, green but feel that it invigorates just move down the spectrum to a sage. It is still green but it is now warm and calming. "Color Visualizer" from Glidden Paints (www.gliddenpaints.com) is a great way to try out several colors before committing to one. 3. Arrangement Make the bed the focal point of the room. Clear clutter, toys and anything work-related. If possible, try not to watch TV in your room or in bed. If you insist on having a television in your room, try and keep the TV hidden away when you are not using it. ________________________________________________________ Good to know: A new Italian study has found that couples who have a television set in their bedroom have sex half as often as those who don't. The study also found that certain programs are far more likely to impede passion than others. Violent films will put a stop to sexual relations for half of all couples, while reality shows stem passion for one-third of couples. _________________________________________________________ Instead of watching the tube, light tea candles and sprinkle rose petals (you can use Pure Romance Bed of Roses) across your sheets to let your honey know exactly what's on your mind! 4. Smell At night, use a scented candle with pheromones to help set the mood and fill the room with a sensual fragrance. During the day, use Between the Sheets, which also contains pheromones, as a sensual room spray. Before you leave for work, spray some Between the Sheets so you and your significant other come home to the sexy scent still lingering. 5. Touch Spray Between the Sheets for a silky feel, keep it close by the bed, on or in the nightstand for easy access when its time to dry up any pesky wet spots. Keep the Pure Romance Burning Desire Candle nearby making it easily accessible for any spontaneous sensual massages! 6. Sound Don't rely on your alarm clock radio to provide romantic songs to set the mood; you can never guarantee what songs even your favorite station will play. For commercial free music and guaranteed favorites, make a mix CD of your favorite slow songs. If you don't have a CD player in your room, get one. A CD player with a remote is ideal. For a space-saving alternative to a stereo system, consider a clock/radio/CD player combo for your night stand. You can also purchase an iPod docking station so you can have sexy play-lists pre-made and ready at the drop of a hat! 7. Taste Edible body creams, lubricants, arousal creams and lotion (such as Whipped, Sensations, Ex-T-Cee,Great Head, etc.) should be handy and accessible at all times. Dust Me Pink is also a delicious way to add some playfulness to the bedroom! Remember these are just some simple tips and pointers to transform your bedroom into your own romantic getaway filled with Pure Romance. If you have questions about anything mentioned here or would like to learn how you can earn $100 in FREE Pure Romance products, feel free to contact me! 615.653.1441 or [email protected]
5 Must-try Outdoor Sex Experiences
When the temperature rises, it's not too hot for sex — it's prime time for hot sex! In this excerpt from her book Superhotsex, iVillage sex expert Tracey Cox reveals the top five places to get frisky in the great outdoors. So on a lazy summer Saturday or your next vacation for two, celebrate the sun and bring your sex life to new heights with these not-to-be-missed experiences!
The Feel of Sun on Naked Flesh Why it feels great: Some claim the only time our bodies are truly at peace is when the sun beats down on us, because the sun's and body's biorhythms are the same. But it's not just the rays that make outdoor sex in the sun unbeatable. We're permanently worked up by a combination of sensual triggers. People prance around in next to nothing during summer, providing a feast of flesh; a tan makes even the body-conscious feel good about being naked (as my brother says, brown fat looks better than white fat). Spreading sunscreen on each other is drop-dead sexy — continuing to rub parts that don't need it, even more so. Heat and humidity make us slow down: We're too relaxed to move, too laid-back to lift a limb and happy to lie back and enjoy lazy, languid lovemaking... delicious!
Re-create it inside: Do it in front of the fire. Pretend you're stars of one of those cheesy 80s movies: First you'd see a bra flung on a chair, then a pair of high heels, then two half-drunk glasses of champagne. Then, finally, a couple making out on a deep sheepskin rug, fire sparkling prettily in the background. Yes, it sounds cheesy, but anyone who's tried it has to admit it feels extraordinary! There's a reason why those thick carpets were called "shag-pile." People spent more time lying on them than walking on them because they felt so damn comfortable. Besides, firelight is massively flattering, and being naked in front of a fire, terribly decadent. Anyone for a martini?
Water or Beach Sex Why it feels great: In water, we're gloriously weightless. Everyone feels light and buoyant in mood and body (not to mention thin). The squeamish get an extra bonus: Having outdoor sex in water guarantees everything is clean and fresh. Sex on the water's edge makes us feel like we're starring in From Here to Eternity; the smell of salt and the sea and the sound of water lapping (along with your partner) stimulate other senses. Nearly everyone's had a post-liquid-dinner-party semi- (or completely) naked hot-tub experience — and even if people's toes and hands didn't accidentally float our way, the prospect was excitement enough. Swimming pools, innocent as they appear, provided many a young girl with her very first orgasm. She'd position herself so the jet of water flowed directly on her clitoris and quietly climax, appearing to be dreaming away, lost in thought.
Re-create it inside: Solo, use a hose shower head attachment and direct the flow of water where you need it most. Try changing the water temperature (hot to cold) and strength (hard and fast to a teasing dribble) for variety. Sex in the bath or shower might not rival sex on a beach, but it comes in a sexy second place. In the shower, lean back on the wall, one leg raised high, the other on the floor for balance. He supports your raised leg with his hand.
At One with Nature Why it feels great: You're out in the middle of nowhere (a forest/desert) and suddenly you get an "I'm so happy to be alive!" rush, because it's just the two of you and Mother Nature. If you're under the shelter of a tree or in a tent, a menacing storm or copious rain only makes outdoor sex even more cozy and intimate. Our libidos rise when we're outside: Fresh air makes us feel energized and healthy, and the child in us associates being outdoors with freedom. As youngsters, we went outside to play "doctors and nurses," as teens to sneak our first smoke or cop a feel behind the school building. Our subconscious remembers all of this for us and taps us on the shoulder (or on another part) to remind us and to suggest we do wicked things.
Re-create it inside: Go outside when it rains, jump around like kids until you're thoroughly drenched, then go inside and have sex in the shower or the bathtub. Alternatively, pitch a tent in your yard (if you're childless, do it under cover of darkness, and if the neighbors ask about the tent, say your niece and nephew were visiting).
On Vacation Somewhere Exclusive and Expensive Why it feels great: Few things beat playing "L.A. movie producer" and sitting on a sun lounger next to a fabulously excessive swimming pool, cocktail in hand and waiter hovering close by, ready to top it off after every sip! Few of us are so rich we can loll about in luxury every day, so when we are staying somewhere glitzy, we're also in a great mood. Having already grabbed all the freebie shampoos and slugged the complimentary bubbly, you're looking for other ways to make the most of where you are. The urge to be "naughty" is strong, and the elevator/hallways leading to your room/gardens surrounding the pool morph into enormous king-size beds, begging to be romped on. You're both looking your best, making an effort to dress up for dinner, and because you're abroad and anonymous, you're more likely to do something risky. We drink more when away from home, loosening those inhibitions further, and stay up later because there's no work the next day.
Re-create it inside: If you've got some cash to spare, take yourselves out to a ritzy hotel bar or restaurant, wine and dine, then search till you find relatively private/quiet bathrooms where you can hide for a quick five minutes. If money is tight, buy one of two indulgent treats you wouldn't normally spend money on (such as gourmet chocolate, expensive wine, a rich chocolate cake, organic strawberries), climb into bed and feed each other. Feeling spoiled and removed from the "everyday" evokes the same feelings.
In a Famous Place or Landmark Why it feels great: You're standing in front of or in a place you've been desperate to go to your whole life. Regardless of whether it's a hotel in Vegas, a balcony with a view of the Statue of Liberty, a palace or Uncle Fred's back porch, there's enormous emotional significance attached to the moment. Having sex in, near or looking at a longed-for destination or landmark can turn an amazing experience into an out-of-this-world one. You're still not truly convinced you're there, so everything seems surreal and in slow motion. And even if the sex wasn't technically that great, it gets stored in the "sex experiences never to be forgotten" category because you're fulfilling a lifelong fantasy.
Re-create it inside: It sounds silly, but sometimes even watching a video or looking at photos can nudge naughty memories. Help it along by talking dirty to each other, describing what you did and how it felt at the time. Build on this to create a fantasy, adding things you wish you had done. Then plan a trip to another special place, focusing on what sort of sex you'll have there.
Just because you're tired, bloated or having a horrendous fat day (we've all been there), that doesn't mean it has to be a no-sex night!
You're having a fat day!
What you want: To hide bulges, keep yourself semicovered — and ideally keep his hands far from your tummy and other no-go zones.
Intimate instructions: There are alternatives to keeping your T-shirt on and settling for (yawn) missionary. Rear-entry positions are the most flattering. Kneel facing away from him, lean down to rest your weight on your forearms (read: tummy hidden) and push your bottom tantalizingly high in the air in his direction. Not only does it give him a visual treat, the angle and position makes your waist look tiny and your thighs slim and taut — without you having to launch into that whiny "Don't look at me!" girly stuff. Put his hands on your hips to hold you steady while he thrusts, and you've also solved the wandering hands problem.
Sneaky tricks: If he wants the lights on, place glass-encased candles on the floor or simply plunk the bedside light down there. Lighting from below is far more flattering. Or play a game using a flashlight. Make the room as black as possible so there's complete darkness, then use the flashlight to highlight favorite parts of each other's body. It's complimentary, plus, because only one section at a time is being lit, it's less intrusive. Another good fat-day trick: Blindfold him and let it all hang out.
A new angle: If you do opt for missionary, make a pudgy upper midriff look sexier by stretching your arms up over your head and grabbing onto the bedposts or by placing them flat on the wall behind the bed. Better still, get him to pin you there. It's supersexy for him — he's in control and you're completely submissive. Plus, it works a treat to make tummies look flat and breasts appear perky!
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