The G-Spot. Fact or Fiction?

8/31/2010

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The g-spot is a zone about two or three inches inside the vagina on the front wall, closest to the clitoris or pubic bone. With the right technique and a bit of practice it can yield lots and lots of pleasure for women including orgasm, multiple orgasms and female ejaculation. 

Here are some simple things to help both a woman and her partner understand and discover her g-spot:

1. It is important to discuss beforehand with your partner what you would like to accomplish or the techniques you would like to try.
2. You may even want to read more about the g-spot before engaging in any intimate activity. The Complete Manual of Sexual Positions is a great resource for you. Contact your Pure Romance Consultant Paula Pierce to order this fantastic tool.
3. Engage in LOTS and LOTS of foreplay (minimum 30 minutes, preferably an hour). It may even be help to experience an orgasm from clitoral stimulation to make sure you are sufficiently aroused.
4. Lie on your back and pull your knees up. It also helps to place a pillow or two under your hips. The Sex Sling (another incredible Pure Romance Product) can also help get you into the ideal position for g-spot stimulation.
5. Either you or your partner can stimulate the g-spot. Gently place two fingers or a g-spot toy two or three inches inside your vagina. (May I recommend the G-Wiz?)
6. Then make a "come here" motion with your or his fingers.
7. Your or his fingers or the toy should now be touching the g-spot. Massage back and forth with his fingers, gently at first, then harder, eventually using lots of pressure. You can also start the toy off on a slower speed and pulsation and work up to a faster speed to heighten arousal.
8. That's it! With luck you'll reach your first orgasm within 3 to 5 minutes of heavy-pressured massaging. 

The g-spot itself feels like a very subtle bump 2 or 3 inches inside the vagina, about 1 to 2 inches in diameter. The important things for g-spot stimulation are foreplay, bringing your knees up to your chest, and hard pressure on your g-spot. Foreplay builds your sexual excitement and fills your vaginal and clitoral areas with blood - the equivalent of a man getting an erection. Lots of foreplay makes any sexual touch much more pleasurable.

Here are a few more suggestions to help in discovering the pleasure of the g-spot:

Let Go of the Feeling to Urinate

The most common barrier to reaching a g-spot orgasm is feeling like you might urinate. Sometimes during g-spot massage you'll get this feeling and you may stop stimulating that area. In order to put your mind at rest and focus on the pleasurable sensations you are experiencing there are a few things you can try. First, go to the bathroom and empty your bladder. When you start the g-pot massage, you might experience a feeling like you have to urinate, but know that youve just emptied your bladder. If you do experience some sort of release of fluid, know that what is happening is the build up to a female ejaculation. This is a clear or white substance similar to male semen that may come out of your urethral opening during orgasm. The ejaculation doesn't come from the bladder and is not urine. It comes from the paraurethral glands, a collection of small glands parallel to or surrounding the urethra. Female ejaculation is usually very, very pleasurable, and is most likely to happen during g-spot stimulation. Put a towel or two underneath you, and talk to your partner about it beforehand.

The way to move past the feeling like you need to urinate is to just let go. You get this feeling because the paraurethral glands are beginning to fill the urethra with ejaculate. If this is a new sensation you'll probably think you will or have urinated. Let the tension build up and let the feeling go. If you can get over this feeling, there's a good chance you'll reach orgasm from g-spot stimulation, and may possibly experience multiple orgasms. Before you engage in any g-spot stimulation, it is important to discuss it with your partner, especially about the possibility of an ejaculation. This will help alleviate any fears you both have about the experience and allow you to both enjoy g-spot stimulation.

The G-Spot Orgasm

With some practice and patience, g-spot massage can produce an orgasm for most women. If you are experimenting with g-spot stimulation with a partner, it is important to communicate to them what feels good, so they can understand the techniques that are most pleasurable to you. There is a way to 'feel' the orgasm happening - you can feel the orgasmic contractions. This will be a light, rhythmical squeezing of the vagina, lasting about 5 to 10 seconds.

If you keep stimulating the g-spot after the first orgasm, its possible to reach a second, third or more. If you reach the first orgasm from g-spot stimulation, ask your partner to keep going until he feels the orgasmic contractions finish. You can start stimulating again when it feels comfortable and pleasurable. This may be right away or a few seconds after orgasm. If you keep going like this you may reach a second or even third orgasm.

Still Not Experiencing G-Spot Orgasms?

If you still have trouble getting pleasure from g-spot stimulation and have tried everything you can think of, including different positions, types of stimulation and have techniques, we suggest sticking with what works for your body. This may be oral sex, penetration, clitoral stimulation or a combination of everything. Not every woman will experience the same types of stimulation and pleasurable sensations. What works for you, may not work for other women. So, although the g-spot may be an extremely pleasurable area on some women, your body may respond better to other types of stimulation. Maybe try a combination of g-spot and clitoral stimulation to see if you find that pleasurable. Keep experimenting until you find what works best for you... pleasure is paramount.
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12 Secrets of Sensational Solo Sex

4/26/2010

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Am I doing this right? When it comes to sex, it's the most asked question of all time, and masturbation is no exception. That's where expert advice from Anne Semans comes in. In her book The Many Joys of Sex Toys, 12 tricks are spelled out in buzz-worthy detail.

Relax.
The key to your enjoyment is your ability to relax and stay in the moment, so check your anxieties or frustrations at the door. Stop thinking about work, the kids or the dirty laundry. Take a warm bath or get a massage beforehand. (Ladies, we have some wonderful bath products to help you with just that!)Turn yourself on.
Think about what things have turned you on in the past and focus on them now to jump-start your arousal. Fantasize about a steamy sexual encounter, replay a scene from a sexy movie or imagine yourself naked with your favorite celebrity. If you enjoy additional stimulation, put on some sexy music or read some erotica.

Have a look.
If you've never really looked at your genitals before, take out a mirror and hold it with one hand while you use the other hand to locate the parts of your genitalia. Look for the clitoris under its protective hood at the top of your vulva; identify your labia, vagina and anus. It might help to have an anatomical diagram next to you if you're having trouble figuring out what's what. (Consider this INCREDIBLE guide book - Tickle Your Fancy - to help you in your quest!)Let your fingers do the walking.
Use your fingertips to explore all the parts of your genital anatomy. Notice the smoothness of the labia folds, and the hardness of the clitoris. Peel back the clitoral hood and touch the glans so you are familiar with its sensitivity. Insert a finger into your vagina and notice the different textures as it moves in slightly. As you explore, pay attention to the parts of your vulva that feel especially good when stimulated.

Play with yourself.
Put the mirror down, lie on your back and touch yourself all over. Begin by running your hands all over your skin, lingering on the spots that feel particularly sensitive -- including the breasts and the sides of your thighs. Try a variety of movements on your labia and clitoris, pulling, pinching and rubbing along the smooth skin. Focus on the clitoris, paying attention to any erotic sensations that certain moves generate. Some women like to use two fingers to rub over the clitoral hood in a circular motion; others place a fingertip on either side of the clitoris and move from side to side.

Feel the buzz.
Turn your vibrator on and explore in much the same way that you did with your hands. Try running the toy over different parts of your body, including your genitals, but saving your clit for last. Lightly place the tip of the vibrator on your clitoral hood. If the vibration is too intense, place a washcloth or piece of clothing between your body and the toy. (Pure Romance has so many toys to choose from! May I recommend the 7th Heaven)Add your Kegels.
Slowly rock your hips back and forth, contracting your PC muscles (what you squeeze when you want to stop a stream of urine) in time to the motion. (And did you know the stronger your PC muscles the more intense your orgasms become? Need to strengthen them? Consider using our Ben Wa Balls.)

Mix it up.
Vary the speed on your vibrator or apply pressure to get a stronger vibration on your clitoris. If you're moving the toy around, try changing the direction of the motion. As your arousal builds, try stopping and starting the vibration. By "teasing" your clit you coax it along -- when you withhold the stimulation, your body jumps back after it when it's resumed. If you have a hard time getting over the top, stop the toy for longer periods and relax your muscles. Try using the vibrator in a different position -- squeeze it between your legs or lie on top of it. (More toy choices – Ultimate 7th Heaven or Micro Bullet)Breathe deeply.
Resist the urge to hold your breath; instead, take long, deep breaths. With practice, you can coordinate the rhythm of your breathing to your mounting arousal. When you feel yourself close to orgasm, inhale, then time your exhale with the onset of the orgasm, and you'll feel the sexual contraction flow through your body to your toes.

Stay with it.
One of the frustrating and magical things about orgasm is that it can feel very elusive up until you're actually seconds away from having one. Once you hit the point of no return, your orgasm will sweep over you in a matter of seconds, and your body will be wracked by several contractions.

Go for multiples.
Vibrators are tireless -- they can keep going and going long after hands or penises tire out. After your first orgasm, remove the vibrator if your clit is too sensitive, but return after a few seconds to try for another orgasm. You might be surprised at how easy it is to go for more than one, or two, or three... (Or consider going for that G-Spot orgasm. Try the Just a Little Bit or the G-Wiz! You won't be disappointed!)
Try and try again.
Don't worry if you don't make it on your first go-round. Just pick up the toy again later and give it another try. Sometimes it can take several weeks before your body becomes accustomed to the stimulation. Try to learn from each attempt, paying close attention to which types of stimulation feel best and building on those.
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