How to Awaken Erogenous Zones
When most people think of erogenous zones, they think of their genitals. But erogenous zones are all over your body, says Dr. Hutcherson, co-director of the New York Center for Women's Sexual Health. They can include the back, neck, ears, eyelids, hands...wherever touching feels good! If you haven't found your erogenous zones, the time to start looking is now with these simple suggestions.
Make Time for Yourself
Begin by setting aside time every week for yourself. According to Dr. Hutcherson, this is your sacred time, and nobody can interfere; this means that partners and children are not allowed. Go into your home, pull down the shades, and take the phone off the hook. Learn your body all over again. Generate your own sexual energy, and start to see yourself as a sexual being.
How to Wake Up Your Zones
Wake up your erogenous zones by taking a bubble bath, massaging yourself with oils, writing erotic stories, or walking around the house naked. If it feels good, do it! Don't be ashamed or embarrassed—you're discovering what feels good for you. When you feel comfortable and good about your sexuality, it's time to bring your partner into the mix.
Erogenous Zones
Women*
Small of the Neck
Most women find light tongue flicks on this area highly sensual, however, don't get carried away and give hickeys! Remember, we're adults, not high schoolers!
Scalp
Ever wonder why SO many women seem to wash their hair? And why does your girlfriends visit to the hairdresser seem to send her into tizzies when she describes the simple experience of getting her hair washed and how good the jets feel on her scalp? Now you have the answer! Massaging the scalp, scratching it even ever so lightly or brushing her hair, according to scientist alleviates stress and also happens to have a built in bonus: Endorphins are released (pleasure hormones). So the next time your lady friend tells you she is too stressed out to relax, play hairdresser. You'll be glad you did.
Outside of the Ear Lobe
Okay, we can hear you moaning all ready. But we all ready knew that one. No, we do not mean the WHOLE ear or whole earlobe. With the various protective substances and complexities of the inner ear area, most see to forget hundreds of sensitive nerve endings and blood vessels reside in the outside of the ear lobe. Bonus tip: Instead of blowing or doing the old tongue in the ear trick, use your fingertip and lightly stoke it. It may work wonders!
Inside of the Arm
This is an area, according to many sex therapist and counselors that seems to be over looked entirely in foreplay as well as in cuddling with loved ones. The trick here is to LIGHTLY run either your nails or the pads of your fingertips across the area of skin halfway between her elbow and wrist. According to those who have enjoyed this experience, it feels highly similar to someone tickling your palms lightly as well as producing warm sensations in other parts of the body.
Sacrum
No, this isn't a Latin test. And don't make a mad dash for Gray's Anatomy. The Sacrum, known to some as the "Bermuda Triangle of Lust" is the area found roughly above the crease of the buttocks near the base of the spine. Do not apply hard pressure. It will feel as if you are trying to give a spinal without anesthesia. Massage it lightly with a thumb and ask her how much pressure to add.
Inner Thigh
Now don't go totally wild in this area. Too much of a good thing can ruin the impact. Lightly track a small to medium sized triangle from around 2-3 inches below the crotch to the inside of the knee and back up again. Hopefully, by the time you are ready to move you hands a bit higher, she will be ready as well.
Behind the Knee
One of the top totally neglected erotic areas on women. It has some of the softest, thinnest, and sensitive skin on the exposed body.
Achilles Tendon
This is a HIGHLY sensitive spot. Do NOT immediately go here soon after foreplay. Save this spot for much further along. Softly stroke just below the ankle bone (your choice inside or out) and then work slowly up toward the back of her knee.
Breasts
The obvious choice, and hence the reason it was left for last. Everyone and their grandmother knows that the breasts are highly erotic, however, when starting to move into this area, ignore the nipples. Some other techniques you can use is to use all five fingers to stroke each breast in different directions, and instead of working your way from ground zero, start at the breastbone or just underneath the arm, and slowly, slowly work your way toward the nipples. But, stop just short of it.
* Compiled with the help of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists and Judith Seifer, Ph.D., R.N. President of the American Association of Sex Education.
And now, for him…
by Brian McDonald
When a woman considers a man's sexual center, it's always the obvious choice- the penis. While men always enjoy that particular type of stimulation, he has many other areas of the body that a woman can concentrate on in order to enhance and maximize his sexual experience.
The ear is just a huge bundle of tiny nerve endings just waiting to be stimulated by you! You can use your fingers, lips and tongue to explore every area of his ear including behind the ear. Start slowly with whatever you feel comfortable with and you should be able to tell what turns him on and what doesn't do much for him by his reactions. Also, men tend to love when his partner lets him know what she is enjoying, so don't hesitate to moan or breathe in his ear!
Men love kissing almost as much as women! While he may not enjoy as much kissing as his partner past a certain point, don't forget to kiss him so that he knows he's wanted and desired. Also, try capturing his bottom lip gently between your teeth or sucking on his tongue. Most men go crazy for creative moves like that!
A man's neck is often a place where women ignore, but they love to have soft kisses planted up and down it just as much as you do! Some men even love to have his partner run her tongue from the base of his neck, over his Adams apple and up to his chin. The key to good neck play is to try not to get the area too wet and avoid leaving marks.
Men may not play with their hair, but it doesn't mean that a thorough scalp massage won't feel good! Gently massage his scalp if you have nails or simply run your hands through his hair. He won't expect it, but he'll most likely love it!
A man's chest is one of the most sensitive places a woman can pay attention to during lovemaking. The key to approaching a man's chest is to always be complimentary and treat his nipples as if they are just as sensitive as a woman's nipples. They can be gently drawn into the mouth or lightly seized between the teeth for an erotic sensation. Always pay attention to his reaction, as it will be an unfailing way to measure his pleasure levels.
Try paying a little attention to a man's inner thighs. He most likely never has them touched by anything but slacks and they are incredibly sensitive to the touch! Kiss them, touch them, nibble them or lick them! Do what prompts a positive reaction and watch him soar.
Do you know exactly what the glans head is on a man? If you want to drive your man completely wild, this is where you should go! The very tip of a man's penis that looks almost like a purple helmet is the glans head. Focus on this part and watch him soar.
The perineum on a man is located between the anus and the scrotum. Some men absolutely love to have this area gently fondled during foreplay and even during sex if possible. For super sensitivity, try to moisten the area with massage oil or lubricant before gently massaging. For the more adventurous, you may want to venture to the man's anus- it is very sensitive and can bring about a great deal of pleasure.
Finally, you can't completely satisfy your man if you ignore his scrotum! There are a number of names for this part of a man's body including his balls, sac or nuts. This part is incredibly sensitive and should be handled with care! Cradle his scrotum in your hand and gently fondle them, lick them or even gently suck them.
Men enjoy foreplay just as much as women do, so take some time to give him the attention he deserves and he just might be able to find the time to do exactly the same to you! If you've made it this far without him throwing you down and having his way with you, he's probably insane with desire and you will both benefit from his heightened desire!
When most people think of erogenous zones, they think of their genitals. But erogenous zones are all over your body, says Dr. Hutcherson, co-director of the New York Center for Women's Sexual Health. They can include the back, neck, ears, eyelids, hands...wherever touching feels good! If you haven't found your erogenous zones, the time to start looking is now with these simple suggestions.
Make Time for Yourself
Begin by setting aside time every week for yourself. According to Dr. Hutcherson, this is your sacred time, and nobody can interfere; this means that partners and children are not allowed. Go into your home, pull down the shades, and take the phone off the hook. Learn your body all over again. Generate your own sexual energy, and start to see yourself as a sexual being.
How to Wake Up Your Zones
Wake up your erogenous zones by taking a bubble bath, massaging yourself with oils, writing erotic stories, or walking around the house naked. If it feels good, do it! Don't be ashamed or embarrassed—you're discovering what feels good for you. When you feel comfortable and good about your sexuality, it's time to bring your partner into the mix.
Erogenous Zones
Women*
Small of the Neck
Most women find light tongue flicks on this area highly sensual, however, don't get carried away and give hickeys! Remember, we're adults, not high schoolers!
Scalp
Ever wonder why SO many women seem to wash their hair? And why does your girlfriends visit to the hairdresser seem to send her into tizzies when she describes the simple experience of getting her hair washed and how good the jets feel on her scalp? Now you have the answer! Massaging the scalp, scratching it even ever so lightly or brushing her hair, according to scientist alleviates stress and also happens to have a built in bonus: Endorphins are released (pleasure hormones). So the next time your lady friend tells you she is too stressed out to relax, play hairdresser. You'll be glad you did.
Outside of the Ear Lobe
Okay, we can hear you moaning all ready. But we all ready knew that one. No, we do not mean the WHOLE ear or whole earlobe. With the various protective substances and complexities of the inner ear area, most see to forget hundreds of sensitive nerve endings and blood vessels reside in the outside of the ear lobe. Bonus tip: Instead of blowing or doing the old tongue in the ear trick, use your fingertip and lightly stoke it. It may work wonders!
Inside of the Arm
This is an area, according to many sex therapist and counselors that seems to be over looked entirely in foreplay as well as in cuddling with loved ones. The trick here is to LIGHTLY run either your nails or the pads of your fingertips across the area of skin halfway between her elbow and wrist. According to those who have enjoyed this experience, it feels highly similar to someone tickling your palms lightly as well as producing warm sensations in other parts of the body.
Sacrum
No, this isn't a Latin test. And don't make a mad dash for Gray's Anatomy. The Sacrum, known to some as the "Bermuda Triangle of Lust" is the area found roughly above the crease of the buttocks near the base of the spine. Do not apply hard pressure. It will feel as if you are trying to give a spinal without anesthesia. Massage it lightly with a thumb and ask her how much pressure to add.
Inner Thigh
Now don't go totally wild in this area. Too much of a good thing can ruin the impact. Lightly track a small to medium sized triangle from around 2-3 inches below the crotch to the inside of the knee and back up again. Hopefully, by the time you are ready to move you hands a bit higher, she will be ready as well.
Behind the Knee
One of the top totally neglected erotic areas on women. It has some of the softest, thinnest, and sensitive skin on the exposed body.
Achilles Tendon
This is a HIGHLY sensitive spot. Do NOT immediately go here soon after foreplay. Save this spot for much further along. Softly stroke just below the ankle bone (your choice inside or out) and then work slowly up toward the back of her knee.
Breasts
The obvious choice, and hence the reason it was left for last. Everyone and their grandmother knows that the breasts are highly erotic, however, when starting to move into this area, ignore the nipples. Some other techniques you can use is to use all five fingers to stroke each breast in different directions, and instead of working your way from ground zero, start at the breastbone or just underneath the arm, and slowly, slowly work your way toward the nipples. But, stop just short of it.
* Compiled with the help of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists and Judith Seifer, Ph.D., R.N. President of the American Association of Sex Education.
And now, for him…
by Brian McDonald
When a woman considers a man's sexual center, it's always the obvious choice- the penis. While men always enjoy that particular type of stimulation, he has many other areas of the body that a woman can concentrate on in order to enhance and maximize his sexual experience.
The ear is just a huge bundle of tiny nerve endings just waiting to be stimulated by you! You can use your fingers, lips and tongue to explore every area of his ear including behind the ear. Start slowly with whatever you feel comfortable with and you should be able to tell what turns him on and what doesn't do much for him by his reactions. Also, men tend to love when his partner lets him know what she is enjoying, so don't hesitate to moan or breathe in his ear!
Men love kissing almost as much as women! While he may not enjoy as much kissing as his partner past a certain point, don't forget to kiss him so that he knows he's wanted and desired. Also, try capturing his bottom lip gently between your teeth or sucking on his tongue. Most men go crazy for creative moves like that!
A man's neck is often a place where women ignore, but they love to have soft kisses planted up and down it just as much as you do! Some men even love to have his partner run her tongue from the base of his neck, over his Adams apple and up to his chin. The key to good neck play is to try not to get the area too wet and avoid leaving marks.
Men may not play with their hair, but it doesn't mean that a thorough scalp massage won't feel good! Gently massage his scalp if you have nails or simply run your hands through his hair. He won't expect it, but he'll most likely love it!
A man's chest is one of the most sensitive places a woman can pay attention to during lovemaking. The key to approaching a man's chest is to always be complimentary and treat his nipples as if they are just as sensitive as a woman's nipples. They can be gently drawn into the mouth or lightly seized between the teeth for an erotic sensation. Always pay attention to his reaction, as it will be an unfailing way to measure his pleasure levels.
Try paying a little attention to a man's inner thighs. He most likely never has them touched by anything but slacks and they are incredibly sensitive to the touch! Kiss them, touch them, nibble them or lick them! Do what prompts a positive reaction and watch him soar.
Do you know exactly what the glans head is on a man? If you want to drive your man completely wild, this is where you should go! The very tip of a man's penis that looks almost like a purple helmet is the glans head. Focus on this part and watch him soar.
The perineum on a man is located between the anus and the scrotum. Some men absolutely love to have this area gently fondled during foreplay and even during sex if possible. For super sensitivity, try to moisten the area with massage oil or lubricant before gently massaging. For the more adventurous, you may want to venture to the man's anus- it is very sensitive and can bring about a great deal of pleasure.
Finally, you can't completely satisfy your man if you ignore his scrotum! There are a number of names for this part of a man's body including his balls, sac or nuts. This part is incredibly sensitive and should be handled with care! Cradle his scrotum in your hand and gently fondle them, lick them or even gently suck them.
Men enjoy foreplay just as much as women do, so take some time to give him the attention he deserves and he just might be able to find the time to do exactly the same to you! If you've made it this far without him throwing you down and having his way with you, he's probably insane with desire and you will both benefit from his heightened desire!
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