The g-spot is a zone about two or three inches inside the vagina on the front wall, closest to the clitoris or pubic bone. With the right technique and a bit of practice it can yield lots and lots of pleasure for women including orgasm, multiple orgasms and female ejaculation. Here are some simple things to help both a woman and her partner understand and discover her g-spot: 1. It is important to discuss beforehand with your partner what you would like to accomplish or the techniques you would like to try. 2. You may even want to read more about the g-spot before engaging in any intimate activity. The Complete Manual of Sexual Positions is a great resource for you. Contact your Pure Romance Consultant Paula Pierce to order this fantastic tool. 3. Engage in LOTS and LOTS of foreplay (minimum 30 minutes, preferably an hour). It may even be help to experience an orgasm from clitoral stimulation to make sure you are sufficiently aroused. 4. Lie on your back and pull your knees up. It also helps to place a pillow or two under your hips. The Sex Sling (another incredible Pure Romance Product) can also help get you into the ideal position for g-spot stimulation. 5. Either you or your partner can stimulate the g-spot. Gently place two fingers or a g-spot toy two or three inches inside your vagina. (May I recommend the G-Wiz?) 6. Then make a "come here" motion with your or his fingers. 7. Your or his fingers or the toy should now be touching the g-spot. Massage back and forth with his fingers, gently at first, then harder, eventually using lots of pressure. You can also start the toy off on a slower speed and pulsation and work up to a faster speed to heighten arousal. 8. That's it! With luck you'll reach your first orgasm within 3 to 5 minutes of heavy-pressured massaging. The g-spot itself feels like a very subtle bump 2 or 3 inches inside the vagina, about 1 to 2 inches in diameter. The important things for g-spot stimulation are foreplay, bringing your knees up to your chest, and hard pressure on your g-spot. Foreplay builds your sexual excitement and fills your vaginal and clitoral areas with blood - the equivalent of a man getting an erection. Lots of foreplay makes any sexual touch much more pleasurable. Here are a few more suggestions to help in discovering the pleasure of the g-spot: Let Go of the Feeling to UrinateThe most common barrier to reaching a g-spot orgasm is feeling like you might urinate. Sometimes during g-spot massage you'll get this feeling and you may stop stimulating that area. In order to put your mind at rest and focus on the pleasurable sensations you are experiencing there are a few things you can try. First, go to the bathroom and empty your bladder. When you start the g-pot massage, you might experience a feeling like you have to urinate, but know that youve just emptied your bladder. If you do experience some sort of release of fluid, know that what is happening is the build up to a female ejaculation. This is a clear or white substance similar to male semen that may come out of your urethral opening during orgasm. The ejaculation doesn't come from the bladder and is not urine. It comes from the paraurethral glands, a collection of small glands parallel to or surrounding the urethra. Female ejaculation is usually very, very pleasurable, and is most likely to happen during g-spot stimulation. Put a towel or two underneath you, and talk to your partner about it beforehand. The way to move past the feeling like you need to urinate is to just let go. You get this feeling because the paraurethral glands are beginning to fill the urethra with ejaculate. If this is a new sensation you'll probably think you will or have urinated. Let the tension build up and let the feeling go. If you can get over this feeling, there's a good chance you'll reach orgasm from g-spot stimulation, and may possibly experience multiple orgasms. Before you engage in any g-spot stimulation, it is important to discuss it with your partner, especially about the possibility of an ejaculation. This will help alleviate any fears you both have about the experience and allow you to both enjoy g-spot stimulation. The G-Spot OrgasmWith some practice and patience, g-spot massage can produce an orgasm for most women. If you are experimenting with g-spot stimulation with a partner, it is important to communicate to them what feels good, so they can understand the techniques that are most pleasurable to you. There is a way to 'feel' the orgasm happening - you can feel the orgasmic contractions. This will be a light, rhythmical squeezing of the vagina, lasting about 5 to 10 seconds. If you keep stimulating the g-spot after the first orgasm, its possible to reach a second, third or more. If you reach the first orgasm from g-spot stimulation, ask your partner to keep going until he feels the orgasmic contractions finish. You can start stimulating again when it feels comfortable and pleasurable. This may be right away or a few seconds after orgasm. If you keep going like this you may reach a second or even third orgasm. Still Not Experiencing G-Spot Orgasms?If you still have trouble getting pleasure from g-spot stimulation and have tried everything you can think of, including different positions, types of stimulation and have techniques, we suggest sticking with what works for your body. This may be oral sex, penetration, clitoral stimulation or a combination of everything. Not every woman will experience the same types of stimulation and pleasurable sensations. What works for you, may not work for other women. So, although the g-spot may be an extremely pleasurable area on some women, your body may respond better to other types of stimulation. Maybe try a combination of g-spot and clitoral stimulation to see if you find that pleasurable. Keep experimenting until you find what works best for you... pleasure is paramount.
When you enter your bedroom do you feel instant warmth and passion from the setting? Or do is it just a place to sleep and store the stuff that doesn't go anywhere else in your home? Here are some tips to transform your bedroom from blah to WOW in seven simple steps. 1. Personalize with Pictures Happily Attached? Add photos of the two of you together, select romantic frames or create a collage of special photos that bring back sexy and romantic memories. A good photo to use would be the two of you on your honeymoon or first holiday together, NOT pictures of the two of you in the hospital just after giving birth! The point is to use photos that evoke bad memories or sad feelings (the picture of the two of you with your now-deceased relative at a wedding is not a good idea). Try to restrict all photos in the room to be of you and your lover. Save your group photos for the hallway or living room. Single Status? Have special pictures of you in sexy/romantic settings (by sexy, we do not mean using pictures with questionable and risque photos or poses!). For example, a picture of you from your vacation in the perfect sunlight rather than the one of you partying all night long with some random group of people you met on the beach! Use pictures that make you feel good about yourself and pictures that prove you don't have to be committed to be happy and enjoy life. Use sexy wall art or framed photos of romantic scenery in black and white which can be customized to any room style, theme or color. General Rules of Thumb: While endearing, family photos or pictures of the kids can actually be distracting in the bedroom. Nothing can break the mood like looking up to see your precious 5-year-old looking down on you while you're in the middle of sharing an intimate moment with your partner! 2. Versatile Lighting Bright lights can be distracting and unflattering to some skin tones, try low wattage (40 watts or lower) to add comfort and serenity. Candles are great for lighting in the evening and can be used as decoration at the same time. If you're planning to remodel, consider the adjustable light dimmers that can go from a soft candle like glow to a bright light at the touch of a button. Choose soft colors that appeal to you. Psychologists have been studying the effects of colors on mood for many years and believe that colors play an important role in eliciting specific emotional responses. For example a yellow room is thought to be playful and optimistic while a red room signifies stimulation and passion. Fortunately, we do not have to limit ourselves to the primary color palate. Each color has a broad spectrum of hues, saturation and brightness. You only need to choose a color that you like and there will be a softer tone more suitable for a romantic setting. If you like, green but feel that it invigorates just move down the spectrum to a sage. It is still green but it is now warm and calming. "Color Visualizer" from Glidden Paints (www.gliddenpaints.com) is a great way to try out several colors before committing to one. 3. Arrangement Make the bed the focal point of the room. Clear clutter, toys and anything work-related. If possible, try not to watch TV in your room or in bed. If you insist on having a television in your room, try and keep the TV hidden away when you are not using it. ________________________________________________________ Good to know: A new Italian study has found that couples who have a television set in their bedroom have sex half as often as those who don't. The study also found that certain programs are far more likely to impede passion than others. Violent films will put a stop to sexual relations for half of all couples, while reality shows stem passion for one-third of couples. _________________________________________________________ Instead of watching the tube, light tea candles and sprinkle rose petals (you can use Pure Romance Bed of Roses) across your sheets to let your honey know exactly what's on your mind! 4. Smell At night, use a scented candle with pheromones to help set the mood and fill the room with a sensual fragrance. During the day, use Between the Sheets, which also contains pheromones, as a sensual room spray. Before you leave for work, spray some Between the Sheets so you and your significant other come home to the sexy scent still lingering. 5. Touch Spray Between the Sheets for a silky feel, keep it close by the bed, on or in the nightstand for easy access when its time to dry up any pesky wet spots. Keep the Pure Romance Burning Desire Candle nearby making it easily accessible for any spontaneous sensual massages! 6. Sound Don't rely on your alarm clock radio to provide romantic songs to set the mood; you can never guarantee what songs even your favorite station will play. For commercial free music and guaranteed favorites, make a mix CD of your favorite slow songs. If you don't have a CD player in your room, get one. A CD player with a remote is ideal. For a space-saving alternative to a stereo system, consider a clock/radio/CD player combo for your night stand. You can also purchase an iPod docking station so you can have sexy play-lists pre-made and ready at the drop of a hat! 7. Taste Edible body creams, lubricants, arousal creams and lotion (such as Whipped, Sensations, Ex-T-Cee,Great Head, etc.) should be handy and accessible at all times. Dust Me Pink is also a delicious way to add some playfulness to the bedroom! Remember these are just some simple tips and pointers to transform your bedroom into your own romantic getaway filled with Pure Romance. If you have questions about anything mentioned here or would like to learn how you can earn $100 in FREE Pure Romance products, feel free to contact me! 615.653.1441 or [email protected]
5 Must-try Outdoor Sex Experiences
When the temperature rises, it's not too hot for sex — it's prime time for hot sex! In this excerpt from her book Superhotsex, iVillage sex expert Tracey Cox reveals the top five places to get frisky in the great outdoors. So on a lazy summer Saturday or your next vacation for two, celebrate the sun and bring your sex life to new heights with these not-to-be-missed experiences!
The Feel of Sun on Naked Flesh Why it feels great: Some claim the only time our bodies are truly at peace is when the sun beats down on us, because the sun's and body's biorhythms are the same. But it's not just the rays that make outdoor sex in the sun unbeatable. We're permanently worked up by a combination of sensual triggers. People prance around in next to nothing during summer, providing a feast of flesh; a tan makes even the body-conscious feel good about being naked (as my brother says, brown fat looks better than white fat). Spreading sunscreen on each other is drop-dead sexy — continuing to rub parts that don't need it, even more so. Heat and humidity make us slow down: We're too relaxed to move, too laid-back to lift a limb and happy to lie back and enjoy lazy, languid lovemaking... delicious!
Re-create it inside: Do it in front of the fire. Pretend you're stars of one of those cheesy 80s movies: First you'd see a bra flung on a chair, then a pair of high heels, then two half-drunk glasses of champagne. Then, finally, a couple making out on a deep sheepskin rug, fire sparkling prettily in the background. Yes, it sounds cheesy, but anyone who's tried it has to admit it feels extraordinary! There's a reason why those thick carpets were called "shag-pile." People spent more time lying on them than walking on them because they felt so damn comfortable. Besides, firelight is massively flattering, and being naked in front of a fire, terribly decadent. Anyone for a martini?
Water or Beach Sex Why it feels great: In water, we're gloriously weightless. Everyone feels light and buoyant in mood and body (not to mention thin). The squeamish get an extra bonus: Having outdoor sex in water guarantees everything is clean and fresh. Sex on the water's edge makes us feel like we're starring in From Here to Eternity; the smell of salt and the sea and the sound of water lapping (along with your partner) stimulate other senses. Nearly everyone's had a post-liquid-dinner-party semi- (or completely) naked hot-tub experience — and even if people's toes and hands didn't accidentally float our way, the prospect was excitement enough. Swimming pools, innocent as they appear, provided many a young girl with her very first orgasm. She'd position herself so the jet of water flowed directly on her clitoris and quietly climax, appearing to be dreaming away, lost in thought.
Re-create it inside: Solo, use a hose shower head attachment and direct the flow of water where you need it most. Try changing the water temperature (hot to cold) and strength (hard and fast to a teasing dribble) for variety. Sex in the bath or shower might not rival sex on a beach, but it comes in a sexy second place. In the shower, lean back on the wall, one leg raised high, the other on the floor for balance. He supports your raised leg with his hand.
At One with Nature Why it feels great: You're out in the middle of nowhere (a forest/desert) and suddenly you get an "I'm so happy to be alive!" rush, because it's just the two of you and Mother Nature. If you're under the shelter of a tree or in a tent, a menacing storm or copious rain only makes outdoor sex even more cozy and intimate. Our libidos rise when we're outside: Fresh air makes us feel energized and healthy, and the child in us associates being outdoors with freedom. As youngsters, we went outside to play "doctors and nurses," as teens to sneak our first smoke or cop a feel behind the school building. Our subconscious remembers all of this for us and taps us on the shoulder (or on another part) to remind us and to suggest we do wicked things.
Re-create it inside: Go outside when it rains, jump around like kids until you're thoroughly drenched, then go inside and have sex in the shower or the bathtub. Alternatively, pitch a tent in your yard (if you're childless, do it under cover of darkness, and if the neighbors ask about the tent, say your niece and nephew were visiting).
On Vacation Somewhere Exclusive and Expensive Why it feels great: Few things beat playing "L.A. movie producer" and sitting on a sun lounger next to a fabulously excessive swimming pool, cocktail in hand and waiter hovering close by, ready to top it off after every sip! Few of us are so rich we can loll about in luxury every day, so when we are staying somewhere glitzy, we're also in a great mood. Having already grabbed all the freebie shampoos and slugged the complimentary bubbly, you're looking for other ways to make the most of where you are. The urge to be "naughty" is strong, and the elevator/hallways leading to your room/gardens surrounding the pool morph into enormous king-size beds, begging to be romped on. You're both looking your best, making an effort to dress up for dinner, and because you're abroad and anonymous, you're more likely to do something risky. We drink more when away from home, loosening those inhibitions further, and stay up later because there's no work the next day.
Re-create it inside: If you've got some cash to spare, take yourselves out to a ritzy hotel bar or restaurant, wine and dine, then search till you find relatively private/quiet bathrooms where you can hide for a quick five minutes. If money is tight, buy one of two indulgent treats you wouldn't normally spend money on (such as gourmet chocolate, expensive wine, a rich chocolate cake, organic strawberries), climb into bed and feed each other. Feeling spoiled and removed from the "everyday" evokes the same feelings.
In a Famous Place or Landmark Why it feels great: You're standing in front of or in a place you've been desperate to go to your whole life. Regardless of whether it's a hotel in Vegas, a balcony with a view of the Statue of Liberty, a palace or Uncle Fred's back porch, there's enormous emotional significance attached to the moment. Having sex in, near or looking at a longed-for destination or landmark can turn an amazing experience into an out-of-this-world one. You're still not truly convinced you're there, so everything seems surreal and in slow motion. And even if the sex wasn't technically that great, it gets stored in the "sex experiences never to be forgotten" category because you're fulfilling a lifelong fantasy.
Re-create it inside: It sounds silly, but sometimes even watching a video or looking at photos can nudge naughty memories. Help it along by talking dirty to each other, describing what you did and how it felt at the time. Build on this to create a fantasy, adding things you wish you had done. Then plan a trip to another special place, focusing on what sort of sex you'll have there.
Just because you're tired, bloated or having a horrendous fat day (we've all been there), that doesn't mean it has to be a no-sex night!
You're having a fat day!
What you want: To hide bulges, keep yourself semicovered — and ideally keep his hands far from your tummy and other no-go zones.
Intimate instructions: There are alternatives to keeping your T-shirt on and settling for (yawn) missionary. Rear-entry positions are the most flattering. Kneel facing away from him, lean down to rest your weight on your forearms (read: tummy hidden) and push your bottom tantalizingly high in the air in his direction. Not only does it give him a visual treat, the angle and position makes your waist look tiny and your thighs slim and taut — without you having to launch into that whiny "Don't look at me!" girly stuff. Put his hands on your hips to hold you steady while he thrusts, and you've also solved the wandering hands problem.
Sneaky tricks: If he wants the lights on, place glass-encased candles on the floor or simply plunk the bedside light down there. Lighting from below is far more flattering. Or play a game using a flashlight. Make the room as black as possible so there's complete darkness, then use the flashlight to highlight favorite parts of each other's body. It's complimentary, plus, because only one section at a time is being lit, it's less intrusive. Another good fat-day trick: Blindfold him and let it all hang out.
A new angle: If you do opt for missionary, make a pudgy upper midriff look sexier by stretching your arms up over your head and grabbing onto the bedposts or by placing them flat on the wall behind the bed. Better still, get him to pin you there. It's supersexy for him — he's in control and you're completely submissive. Plus, it works a treat to make tummies look flat and breasts appear perky!
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by Linda E. Savage, Ph.D.
Are you as sensual as you want to be? No matter how busy you are, devoting 10 minutes to your inner sex goddess will definitely be time well spent.
1. Imagine Your Secret Garden: Close your eyes, take a deep breath and develop a fantasy garden that is yours alone. Fill it with beautiful herbs, flowers, paths, sitting places, fountains and pools. Then imagine that there is a fence around your garden so that you can invite others in or have your space all to yourself. This imagery allows you to honor personal boundaries and create healthy relationships.
2. Say Affirmations: Every day, look into a mirror, and gaze right into your eyes (without any inner narrative about the way you look). Say, "I am a sensuous, gloriously sexy woman." If this one doesn't work for you, create your own mantra (starting with "I am") or try one of over 100 quotes and mantras in the Goddess Library.
3. Stop Negative Thoughts: Whenever you find yourself being critical of your looks, intelligence and abilities, use a destructive image such as lightning or an explosion to obliterate the negative thoughts. Then replace these thoughts by concentrating on your affirmation for one minute. This technique prevents the thoughts from returning for a while. If you do it every time you catch yourself being self-critical, you'll eventually feel more confident all the time.
4. Call in the Goddess: Sit quietly and imagine you are filled with the loving feminine energy of the ancient goddesses. Breathe deeply and feel the warmth coming from your heart. Ask for wisdom and direct a visual image from your heart towards all you desire.
5. Surrender to Pleasure: Get in touch with your everyday pleasures by tuning in to all positive sensations in your body. Taste sweet foods, smell flowers, touch your own skin, listen to sensual sounds, and visualize beautiful scenery to develop your personal sense of pleasure -- and make it stronger!
6. Create the Sacred Space: Your bedroom should be a work of art, not a cluttered storage space or busy office. The most important objects to remove are "single-girl goods" such as displayed pictures of you alone. Also, stop saving any reminders of past relationships. Instead, fill the space around your bed with pinks and reds, the colors of love. Learn more feng shui techniques to turn your bedroom into a love nest.
7. Dance with Your Partner: If your partner or a date says "I can't dance," just put on sexy music, and encourage him to make his moves, any moves, in your living room. Move sensuously against his body. Tell him it's just vertical lovemaking.. Keep your torsos in contact, fronts or backs, and don't move into specific sexual touching for a while. It will drive you both wild.
8. Caress: Have your partner lie with his head on your lap. Gently explore his face with massage and touch. Don't forget to run your fingers through his hair. After you've finished, he'll be more than ready to do the same for you.
9. Massage: Take turns with your partner exploring each other's bodies, and think about how you can nurture each other with touch. Don't rush to intercourse, and you'll find new and wonderful ways to be sensual. You can also find specific instructions for erotic massage in many books, including mine, Reclaiming Goddess Sexuality.
10. Yoni Caress: Genital pleasuring, done well, is the most erotic way to feed sexual desire. Men need instruction from you, because you know what feels best. Talk to your partner about specific techniques that you enjoy. This conversation may take courage, but frank sexual talk will empower you. Remember that every sex goddess has intimate fantasies, and yours deserve to be fulfilled!
How to Awaken Erogenous Zones
When most people think of erogenous zones, they think of their genitals. But erogenous zones are all over your body, says Dr. Hutcherson, co-director of the New York Center for Women's Sexual Health. They can include the back, neck, ears, eyelids, hands...wherever touching feels good! If you haven't found your erogenous zones, the time to start looking is now with these simple suggestions.
Make Time for Yourself
Begin by setting aside time every week for yourself. According to Dr. Hutcherson, this is your sacred time, and nobody can interfere; this means that partners and children are not allowed. Go into your home, pull down the shades, and take the phone off the hook. Learn your body all over again. Generate your own sexual energy, and start to see yourself as a sexual being.
How to Wake Up Your Zones
Wake up your erogenous zones by taking a bubble bath, massaging yourself with oils, writing erotic stories, or walking around the house naked. If it feels good, do it! Don't be ashamed or embarrassed—you're discovering what feels good for you. When you feel comfortable and good about your sexuality, it's time to bring your partner into the mix.
Erogenous Zones
Women*
Small of the Neck
Most women find light tongue flicks on this area highly sensual, however, don't get carried away and give hickeys! Remember, we're adults, not high schoolers!
Scalp
Ever wonder why SO many women seem to wash their hair? And why does your girlfriends visit to the hairdresser seem to send her into tizzies when she describes the simple experience of getting her hair washed and how good the jets feel on her scalp? Now you have the answer! Massaging the scalp, scratching it even ever so lightly or brushing her hair, according to scientist alleviates stress and also happens to have a built in bonus: Endorphins are released (pleasure hormones). So the next time your lady friend tells you she is too stressed out to relax, play hairdresser. You'll be glad you did.
Outside of the Ear Lobe
Okay, we can hear you moaning all ready. But we all ready knew that one. No, we do not mean the WHOLE ear or whole earlobe. With the various protective substances and complexities of the inner ear area, most see to forget hundreds of sensitive nerve endings and blood vessels reside in the outside of the ear lobe. Bonus tip: Instead of blowing or doing the old tongue in the ear trick, use your fingertip and lightly stoke it. It may work wonders!
Inside of the Arm
This is an area, according to many sex therapist and counselors that seems to be over looked entirely in foreplay as well as in cuddling with loved ones. The trick here is to LIGHTLY run either your nails or the pads of your fingertips across the area of skin halfway between her elbow and wrist. According to those who have enjoyed this experience, it feels highly similar to someone tickling your palms lightly as well as producing warm sensations in other parts of the body.
Sacrum
No, this isn't a Latin test. And don't make a mad dash for Gray's Anatomy. The Sacrum, known to some as the "Bermuda Triangle of Lust" is the area found roughly above the crease of the buttocks near the base of the spine. Do not apply hard pressure. It will feel as if you are trying to give a spinal without anesthesia. Massage it lightly with a thumb and ask her how much pressure to add.
Inner Thigh
Now don't go totally wild in this area. Too much of a good thing can ruin the impact. Lightly track a small to medium sized triangle from around 2-3 inches below the crotch to the inside of the knee and back up again. Hopefully, by the time you are ready to move you hands a bit higher, she will be ready as well.
Behind the Knee
One of the top totally neglected erotic areas on women. It has some of the softest, thinnest, and sensitive skin on the exposed body.
Achilles Tendon
This is a HIGHLY sensitive spot. Do NOT immediately go here soon after foreplay. Save this spot for much further along. Softly stroke just below the ankle bone (your choice inside or out) and then work slowly up toward the back of her knee.
Breasts
The obvious choice, and hence the reason it was left for last. Everyone and their grandmother knows that the breasts are highly erotic, however, when starting to move into this area, ignore the nipples. Some other techniques you can use is to use all five fingers to stroke each breast in different directions, and instead of working your way from ground zero, start at the breastbone or just underneath the arm, and slowly, slowly work your way toward the nipples. But, stop just short of it.
* Compiled with the help of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists and Judith Seifer, Ph.D., R.N. President of the American Association of Sex Education.
And now, for him…
by Brian McDonald
When a woman considers a man's sexual center, it's always the obvious choice- the penis. While men always enjoy that particular type of stimulation, he has many other areas of the body that a woman can concentrate on in order to enhance and maximize his sexual experience.
The ear is just a huge bundle of tiny nerve endings just waiting to be stimulated by you! You can use your fingers, lips and tongue to explore every area of his ear including behind the ear. Start slowly with whatever you feel comfortable with and you should be able to tell what turns him on and what doesn't do much for him by his reactions. Also, men tend to love when his partner lets him know what she is enjoying, so don't hesitate to moan or breathe in his ear!
Men love kissing almost as much as women! While he may not enjoy as much kissing as his partner past a certain point, don't forget to kiss him so that he knows he's wanted and desired. Also, try capturing his bottom lip gently between your teeth or sucking on his tongue. Most men go crazy for creative moves like that!
A man's neck is often a place where women ignore, but they love to have soft kisses planted up and down it just as much as you do! Some men even love to have his partner run her tongue from the base of his neck, over his Adams apple and up to his chin. The key to good neck play is to try not to get the area too wet and avoid leaving marks.
Men may not play with their hair, but it doesn't mean that a thorough scalp massage won't feel good! Gently massage his scalp if you have nails or simply run your hands through his hair. He won't expect it, but he'll most likely love it!
A man's chest is one of the most sensitive places a woman can pay attention to during lovemaking. The key to approaching a man's chest is to always be complimentary and treat his nipples as if they are just as sensitive as a woman's nipples. They can be gently drawn into the mouth or lightly seized between the teeth for an erotic sensation. Always pay attention to his reaction, as it will be an unfailing way to measure his pleasure levels.
Try paying a little attention to a man's inner thighs. He most likely never has them touched by anything but slacks and they are incredibly sensitive to the touch! Kiss them, touch them, nibble them or lick them! Do what prompts a positive reaction and watch him soar.
Do you know exactly what the glans head is on a man? If you want to drive your man completely wild, this is where you should go! The very tip of a man's penis that looks almost like a purple helmet is the glans head. Focus on this part and watch him soar.
The perineum on a man is located between the anus and the scrotum. Some men absolutely love to have this area gently fondled during foreplay and even during sex if possible. For super sensitivity, try to moisten the area with massage oil or lubricant before gently massaging. For the more adventurous, you may want to venture to the man's anus- it is very sensitive and can bring about a great deal of pleasure.
Finally, you can't completely satisfy your man if you ignore his scrotum! There are a number of names for this part of a man's body including his balls, sac or nuts. This part is incredibly sensitive and should be handled with care! Cradle his scrotum in your hand and gently fondle them, lick them or even gently suck them.
Men enjoy foreplay just as much as women do, so take some time to give him the attention he deserves and he just might be able to find the time to do exactly the same to you! If you've made it this far without him throwing you down and having his way with you, he's probably insane with desire and you will both benefit from his heightened desire!
Common Male Foreplay Blunders
By The Sex Coach at sexyadsnews.com
Met your fair share of sexual rejection lately? Has your lady seemed less than satisfied? Your Sex Coach has gathered up some common foreplay blunders men make and gives you tips for turning them around.
1. Minimalist Foreplay
It's legendary: most women like more foreplay than men do. Men focus in on breasts, asses, and genitals and like to hurry the action along, claiming grazing rights on the woman's body as quickly as possible.
What you can do: Naturally, you can take more time. Slow down. Make a deliberate effort to warm up a woman's whole body before zeroing in on her boobs. She'll be much happier, and you may learn that you like extended foreplay yourself once you experiment with it.
Another trick is to invent foreplay experiences you'd like. Foreplay is not just physical arousal; it's also mental arousal. Yours and hers. Thus, it includes such pleasures as soaking in the hot tub, sensuous massages, swimming nude, a romantic walk in the woods, erotic conversation, dressing to tease, cybersex, etc. Pull out the stops.
Women learned long ago the art of the tease, of building erotic suspense, of making men wait for dessert. Men generally haven't been taught this skill, and yet it's a dynamite strategy. Women expect men to be a sexual pushover, always ready to go, and when he applies the brakes, she's no longer in control.
2. Mechanical Foreplay
Men are often criticized for foreplay techniques that resemble paint-by-numbers routines. Men adore women's bodies but often forget to pay attention to their minds. The end result is that women feel pawed and pummeled. This is what most women mean when they say they feel they're being treated as sex objects.
What you can do: Touch a woman's heart and soul by talking to her. Really. A man who can talk to a woman about anything when her nipples are showing (not just about how much he wants to have sex, which is assumed) gets high marks. Meanwhile, a man who knows a woman well enough to arouse her imagination with things she especially likes to hear can ignite flames of passion like a blowtorch. More than most men, most women speak an emotional language. When a woman complains about mechanical lovemaking, it usually means she wants to see more emotion from her man. She wants to break through the tough macho exterior and find the sensitive lover (yet not a wimp) inside.
3. Insensitive Foreplay
For years pretty women have endured the unwanted attention of men obsessed with carnal satisfaction. Their come-ons have been made ugly by their insensitivity. I think of insensitivity here as putting your own sexual agenda far ahead of the feelings or wishes of the person you want to seduce. She has a headache, but you don't care. She wants to watch her favorite TV show, but you want a blowjob instead. Anytime she says something, no matter how innocent, you put a sexual spin on it. Flopping her onto the bed is more important than cleaning yourself up or creating a romantic atmosphere.
What you can do: Men often don't catch on to this one until it's too late and the woman they love has gone. However, the best thing you can do is ask your partner how you can be a better lover. Listen to her without arguing. You may not like what she says, but you'll learn what she wants. For example, she may tell you that your breath is awful and your slobbery kisses disgust her. That's not fun to hear, but her honesty gives you a chance to improve yourself. Honest communication about what you like and dislike sexually is a golden key for creating what you both like.
4. Manipulative Foreplay
Manipulative foreplay is sexual harassment, which, in this context, is when a guy uses intimidation, mental cruelty, or deception to meet his sexual agenda. He tricks, drugs, threatens, or overpowers a woman into putting out for him.
What you can do: Realize that when you manipulate a woman for sex, your prize is false glory. You know she didn't go to bed with you because she likes you or thinks you're awesome. You tricked her. You also tricked yourself because sex under phony or coercive pretenses is nowhere near as juicy and satisfying as the real deal. It's like winning a rigged sporting event. Yeah, you won, but you know you had to cheat to do it. Sex by manipulation usually isn't about sex anyway. It's more of a desperate attempt to feel good by conquering or possessing someone. It would be better to find another way to feel good. You'll see why as soon as you enjoy a sexual relationship in a more honest way.
5. Nasty Foreplay
Many men love dirty, in-your-face sex play and often have a horrible time finding women who are truly happy providing it. Men often blunder badly trying to get their honey to talk nasty or show their booty in a halfway exciting fashion.
What you can do: This would be a good time to discuss different sex styles with your honey. Explain to her that you occasionally want sleazy sex. Tell her specifically what you want her to say and do. Spare her from guessing. She'll most likely be willing to do it your way when you show you're willing to do it her way, too. With a new woman, go gently. If she gives clear signals that hot talk makes her quiver in delight, unleash your tongue. Otherwise, turn up the heat gradually, and remember that for many women, learning how to talk nasty is learning a foreign language.
Love yourself Nakes
A little time in the nude is good for every woman — especially if you happen to be one of those people who goes from shower to towel to outfit, without so much as a peek in the mirror. Avoiding your own nakedness deprives you of a sense of connection with your body.
I know many of you are thinking, I don't need a connection with this less-than-perfect body, thank you!, but I stand firm. Being naked should not be reserved only for lights-out. Our bodies are a source of pride and pleasure, and it's only by facing them that we unlock this potential.
You don't have to stare at yourself for hours on end. Try going through your morning routine sans clothes — apply your makeup, do your hair, enjoy a glass of orange juice, all in the buff. Just get more comfortable with being naked. The benefits are worth it, since increased comfort with your body is a direct line to new heights of sexual satisfaction.
Whatever you choose to do, make it a ritual. You just might find yourself feeling like a whole new woman.
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